the Power of the Popular (or Post-Modern) Poz Paradigm


You must believe me despite what you think: i am not judging, but am not going to infect you, either. HIV meds aren't cheap, even with health coverage. Not to mention how often they don't work or stop working.

OK, wait. Actually, I lied. I judge. Everyone does. Constantly. It is what separates humans from all other creatures. Judgment. Free will. It's good stuff, not bad, not negative. Judgment isn't the same as feeling guilt or shame.

Read on. Mind, open, just for a bit, OK?

Wasted viagra? What is this blog all about anyway?

This is my blog which is a record of some of the more outrageous postings I have seen on the Craigslist Personals\M4M section, where guys who are supposedly HIV-negative are looking for bareback tops who are also supposedly HIV-negative.

When I read one of these ads (and there are many, every day, in every small and large city in the country), and feel particularly incensed, and think that I might be able to reach that person in some small way by telling them my experiences with how that has worked out for so many people doing what they are doing, then I go ahead and write them, and post their original ad, as well as my email to them, to my blog. It makes me feel better about seeing all those ads, at least trying to get them to stop the insanity, or, at least, admit to them that I don't know their situation, that maybe their ability to at least specify that they want an HIV-negative partner is already a big step for them, that for some people they actually have taken much time and thought a lot about how they are going to approach sex and dating and for some of them, it is an acceptable risk to play, even bareback, with people who at least are declaring themselves HIV-negative.

Some of these people do realize that it is akin Russian Roulette with varying odds. Some of them think that at least they are upping their odds by "only barebacking" with guys who at least identify as HIV-negative. I don't know if the statistic is still correct of 50% of the HIV-infected population in the US being unaware, but if that is the case, the odds still aren't great for these guys. It is very very risky and a very effective way to become infected with HIV, this whole "UB2" world.

I can't say that I know anything about it, either, and I admit that to them, because I have been HIV+ for longer than I was HIV-. Born 1964, infected 1983, you do the math. :-)

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You must believe me despite what you think: i am not judging, but am not going to infect you, either. HIV meds aren't cheap, even with health coverage. Not to mention how often they don't work or stop working. OK, wait. Actually, I lied. I judge. Everyone does. Constantly. It is what separates humans from all other creatures. Judgment. Free will. It's good stuff, not bad, not negative. Judgment isn't the same as feeling guilt or shame. Read on. Mind, open, just for a bit, OK?

Saturday, October 13, 2007

Honi soit qui mal y pense. Cowards? They come in all sizes

I'm a safe neg bottom who wants to experience what a real fuck is all about, but have always played it safe. I'd like to find a hot older top who's been VERY recently tested and can show that he's NEG, to introduce me to the feeling of skin on skin.

Wanted: NEG top to introduce me to BB fun - 43

Total bottom here, very oral. Don't need or want to be "pleased," just want to make a top vey happy. I like intense fucks, so hopefully you can do that.

I'm a very discreet bi wm, clean, ddf, n/s--you be, too*. You need to host.
Dude, don't!!!

It's a long slippery slope... anyway, I just wanted to let you know that a lot of guys out there purposely lie about their status (there are some messed up SICK fukks out there, ya... they're the other side of the

*: bitch, you know what? FUCK you. "you be" is an imperative. it's a command. it's like what you say to your dog: "Sit." "Stay". "Fetch." But this is something that you are writing to the gay population at large, and you are not stating your desire, you are commanding obedience. It's fucking bullshit.
Some of us, me, in particular, were not infected with HIV out of choice. Some of us didn't get sloppy with our safe-sex practices, or get tired of having to wear rubbers, or wanted to experience all the fun everyone's talking about (barebacking, breeding, cumloads, etcetcetc).
Some of us, me again, bitch, were just falling in love in the early '80's, falling in love, bitch, you read me? And we got infected just the same.

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