the Power of the Popular (or Post-Modern) Poz Paradigm


You must believe me despite what you think: i am not judging, but am not going to infect you, either. HIV meds aren't cheap, even with health coverage. Not to mention how often they don't work or stop working.

OK, wait. Actually, I lied. I judge. Everyone does. Constantly. It is what separates humans from all other creatures. Judgment. Free will. It's good stuff, not bad, not negative. Judgment isn't the same as feeling guilt or shame.

Read on. Mind, open, just for a bit, OK?

Wasted viagra? What is this blog all about anyway?

This is my blog which is a record of some of the more outrageous postings I have seen on the Craigslist Personals\M4M section, where guys who are supposedly HIV-negative are looking for bareback tops who are also supposedly HIV-negative.

When I read one of these ads (and there are many, every day, in every small and large city in the country), and feel particularly incensed, and think that I might be able to reach that person in some small way by telling them my experiences with how that has worked out for so many people doing what they are doing, then I go ahead and write them, and post their original ad, as well as my email to them, to my blog. It makes me feel better about seeing all those ads, at least trying to get them to stop the insanity, or, at least, admit to them that I don't know their situation, that maybe their ability to at least specify that they want an HIV-negative partner is already a big step for them, that for some people they actually have taken much time and thought a lot about how they are going to approach sex and dating and for some of them, it is an acceptable risk to play, even bareback, with people who at least are declaring themselves HIV-negative.

Some of these people do realize that it is akin Russian Roulette with varying odds. Some of them think that at least they are upping their odds by "only barebacking" with guys who at least identify as HIV-negative. I don't know if the statistic is still correct of 50% of the HIV-infected population in the US being unaware, but if that is the case, the odds still aren't great for these guys. It is very very risky and a very effective way to become infected with HIV, this whole "UB2" world.

I can't say that I know anything about it, either, and I admit that to them, because I have been HIV+ for longer than I was HIV-. Born 1964, infected 1983, you do the math. :-)

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You must believe me despite what you think: i am not judging, but am not going to infect you, either. HIV meds aren't cheap, even with health coverage. Not to mention how often they don't work or stop working. OK, wait. Actually, I lied. I judge. Everyone does. Constantly. It is what separates humans from all other creatures. Judgment. Free will. It's good stuff, not bad, not negative. Judgment isn't the same as feeling guilt or shame. Read on. Mind, open, just for a bit, OK?

Monday, October 15, 2007

neg bottom looking to stay up and party with tops


neg bottom looking to stay up and party with tops
Let's party! I'm pretty inexperienced with Partying but willing to try it out again (no lectures). NEG bottom here 5'8'', 170, 31W, 6"C, insatiable blonde/blue bottom with a tight pink hole.

Send your FACE AND BODY. what was that? Face and Body. In first email. Thanks! Please be handsome, athletic, top, and HIVnegative!!!, Thanks guys! I have more pics to send. Looking for you to host! Raw could be fun if you are neg.


dude, how long you think you'll be able to post an ad on Craigslist like that, I mean, "neg bottom..." if you are going to be taking raw dick up your ass?

Want to know the answer? Here it is: Not very long. Yup. Asking that the dudes be hiv-negative is good, it's better than not specifying it at all, but you should understand (and I assume you don't) that fucking bareback is basically a very quick and effective way to get infected with HIV.

So whatever, have fun, but don't think you're being "safe" by only barebacking with other "neg" guys, because it's bullshit, got it?

ps - please before you write me back with some angry words about how it's none of my business, remember this: yes, you're right, so why would I bother to take some time & write you if I wasn't doing it *for* you. I have nothing to gain. I'm only trying to prevent someone (duh... you) from getting HIV. Trust me, after having it for more than 24 years, it's no picnic. I was just a kid when I got it, "it" didn't even have a name, and I don't recommend it if you can avoid it. But I don't judge, for real, I can't... I honestly have no idea what it is like to be HIV-negative, since once the test came out, boom! I was already poz. So I don't know if it's hard, or what the temptation to fuck bareback is like. Anyway, enough. Take care,

Will
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